Understanding How Men Think: My Husband Won’t Go To Church
What should you do when your husband does not want to go to church with you? Many women have turned their homes into a battleground, thinking it’s their duty to convince the husband that he should go to church. This opens the door to strife and marriage problems.
If your man does not attend church, do not put pressure on him. Nagging him, making suggestions or trying to make him feel guilty only makes the problem worse. He will be even more determined to not do what you want him to do.
Don’t “punish” him for not going to church with you. Withholding sex, or not talking to him will not motivate him.
Work on yourself instead of trying to change him. Don’t focus on your husband’s faults, instead ask God to help you be the wife he needs. Whether or not your husband goes to church is not your problem. Do what you know you are supposed to do and pray that that your husband will hear and obey the voice of God.
At an appropriate time when you and your husband are both feeling content with your relationship, you might say something like “I would really enjoy having you go to church with me” or “It would make me feel so good to have you at church with me.” Simply tell him your feelings and unless he wants to talk about it, change the subject to something more lighthearted.
Accepting your husband and giving him the freedom to be himself is the only thing that will cause him to want to change. There are times when a man might go to church to keep the peace but he will resent it and it will not benefit your marriage.
Going to church has to be his idea. If you are pushing him, he will become more and more resistant and it will eventually lead to a breakdown in your marriage. Focus your efforts on yourself and your attitude and allow your husband the freedom to make his own decision.
