Marriage Tips For Women

Just because your husband does not lead the devotions in your home doesn’t mean that he is not up to par spiritually or that you need to try and change him.

Men who lead the devotions in the home are actually quite rare. If your man takes the lead in conducting Bible studies and praying in your home, be very grateful, the rest of us can relax.

Don’t try to change him. So many women feel the need to put pressure on their husbands to be the spiritual leader. It is okay to want this- he should be the established leader in your home. The problem comes in when we have preconceived ideas of what a spiritual leader does.

Your husband possibly does not think the same way you do about certain matters. Allow him to be who he is and don’t judge him. When you try to change him according to your specifications, it hinders the work of the Holy Spirit in his life. Instead, appreciate and commend him for the fruit you do see in his life.

When a woman places these expectations on her man, it puts a great strain on their relationship. The man senses that he is not measuring up and it saps his confidence and decreases his feelings of love for her.

Don’t get in a tizzy, just because your husband is not measuring up to your expectations of what a spiritual leader should do. Allow him to serve God in his own way. Appreciate his good points and focus on having peace and love in your home.  

This post was inspired by Lynn who wrote Spiritual Leadership and The Heebie Jeebies.