Marriage Tips For Women

How do you respond when your husband is mean to you- he says things to hurt you or maybe he has a habit of insulting you. Many times you can transform his mood by being sassy.  In Fascinating Womanhood, Helen Andelin talks about the benefits of using childlike anger or sauciness in reaction to a husband’s hurtful behavior.

A friend of mine got into a terrible argument with her husband as they were driving. He was mad, she was furious.  When they got to their destination, he got out and went into the house.  She stayed behind, fuming.  She finally prayed and asked God to forgive her for her part in the argument.  She went into the house, walked up to her husband and looking very serious, she said, “I want you to know I called your mom and told her how mean you are to me.”

Her husband’s mood changed instantly.  He started laughing and became his loving self again.   Another lady’s husband had been in a bad mood all day and was finding fault with everything she did.  His mood changed after she faced him with a serious look on her face and said something like, “You think you can be mean to me just because you are bigger and stronger than me. If that’s the way you are going to be I am never going to do anything nice for you again.”

The key is to not say these things with any real malice, only pretend anger.  Do not laugh while you are saying it or give any indication that you are not serious.

Don’t be overly sensitive though.  If it’s something trivial- just overlook it and go on,  but if he is mistreating you or being critical or unfair, this method may work for you.

Do not allow resentment to build up in your marriage.  By displaying “spunk and sassiness,” you can express your feelings and vent your frustrations, while bringing a smile to his face and restoring harmony in your marriage.