How to Help Your Husband Grow Spiritually
Awhile back someone requested more information on what to do when your husband is not as spiritually developed as you are. This list is not all inclusive but here are a few of my ideas:
Don’t nag him about his spiritual walk (going to church, reading his Bible, praying etc). It is not your job to try and convince him to change.
It’s okay to discuss spiritual matters, but don’t have the attitude that you are spiritually superior. If your discussion leads into an argument, change the subject.
Do pray for laborers to be sent across his path-someone he’ll listen to who will inspire him to do the right thing.
Don’t try to impress him with how spiritual you are or try to prove to him that God speaks to you. Instead be humble and be led by the Holy Spirit in your conversations with him. Be quick to apologize when you make a mistake.
Don’t leave hints. Some women try to help their man grow spiritually by buying books for him to read or leaving an open Bible where he is sure to see it.
Don’t put your church ahead of your marriage- in other words, don’t invest so much time in your church that you have nothing left for your husband. And please, do not go home and tell your husband how spiritual and wonderful the pastor is. This will only create resentment and jealousy.
When God speaks to you and tells you to do something, unless it’s a situation that involves your husband, be cautious about asking him what he thinks. If your husband is not spiritually minded-it may seem like foolishness to him and he will try to talk you out of it.
Work on meeting your husband’s most important needs. In His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley states that the top 5 needs of most husbands are sexual fulfillment, recreational companionship, an attractive spouse, domestic support and admiration. After his needs are met, he’ll be much more interested in growing spiritually.
