He’s Upset With Me: What to Do When He’s Angry
How do you help your husband become his loving sweet self again? You did or said something that upset him and now he’s acting like you don’t even exist. He no longer gives you any affection, he may purposely say or do things to try and upset you, and the family pet gets more attention from him than you do. You feel angry and resentful and you may be wondering what ever possessed you to marry this immature man. Here are some suggestions to consider.
First you want to ask God for His help and wisdom. No situation is alike and everyone has a different personality.
You will want to apologize if you did something wrong. If you confronted him about something, you might let him know you understand why he did it.
Most marriage counselors say to give him space and be patient. As you give him time to get over it, do things that make you feel happy and good about yourself- exercise, clean something, spend time praying, call a friend, go shopping or bake a cake. This will help you keep a healthy perspective and get rid of any resentment you may be experiencing.
When you are around him, don’t try to make him talk or feel guilty for the way he is treating you. If he is tight-lipped, try giving him a compliment. If he is resting quietly, don’t say anything. If he starts talking, listen and give him your full attention.
One way to help him come out of his shell is to ask him to do something for you and then let him know you appreciate it. For example, you could ask him for a neck massage or a hug and tell him how good it makes you feel.
One woman said her situation turned around when she went to her husband with tear-filled eyes and said “It feels like you hate me and I don’t like feeling this way.”
Every situation is unique. You may be tempted to retaliate and give him a taste of his own medicine but this will only make the problem worse. Instead, look to God to show you how to best help your husband reconnect with you.
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