My Husband Is Packing His Bags
Your husband says he no longer loves you and he wants to move out-what should your reaction be? This can be very unsettling, especially when you did not see it coming.
Since he was a Christian, you never gave it a thought that he would ever leave you. He went to church with you faithfully, he was a good father. What happened? Many times the reason why your husband no longer has feelings of love for you is because you quit doing those things that arouse these feelings in him. So if he is packing his bags or making plans to leave don’t just throw in the towel and think it’s over.
Initially, you may go through thoughts of disbelief, and anger and you may even beg him not to leave. These feelings are to be expected, but in order to turn this situation around, you will need to get control of your emotions. If he chooses to go, let him go and do not make him feel guilty. If you really want him back, ask God to give you wisdom. Let Him show you where you missed it. Because men and women think so differently you may not know or understand what a man needs in a relationship and often times he is not able to tell you.
Many women simply give up. They believe that the only thing they can do is wait and pray. If you believe your marriage is worth fighting for-well you’ll have to fight for it. Whether your husband is right or wrong is really a mute point. Do not allow yourself to get pulled in a mire of self-pity and depression as you wait around for him to change his mind. Do some soul searching, read some good books on relationships and come up with a plan.
Even if he is already living somewhere else, don’t think all is lost. Get a hold of some good marriage materials for women and take notes. Learn what it that arouses feelings of love in a man and next time you see him or talk to him on the phone, practice.
Your time and resources may be limited but start improving yourself as much as you can-start an exercise program, consider a new hairstyle and some new clothes that flatter you. Even if you do not get back together, this will help increase your self-confidence.
If you are saying “I need help to save my marriage” do not despair. Be proactive and take the steps necessary to turn this situation around. It will require incredible self-discipline to not succumb to the pain that you may experience but if you believe that your marriage is worth fighting for, with God’s help you can do it.
Helpful books:
The Total Woman
Fascinating Womanhood
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