First you want to ask God for His help and wisdom.  No situation is alike and everyone has a different personality.

You will want to apologize if you did something wrong.  If you confronted him about something, you might let him know you understand why he did it.

Most marriage counselors say to give him space and be patient.  As you give him time to get over it, do things that make you feel happy and good about yourself- exercise, clean something, spend time praying, call a friend, go shopping or bake a cake. This will help you keep a healthy perspective and get rid of any resentment you may be experiencing.

When you are around him, don’t try to make him talk or feel guilty for the way he is treating you. If he is tight-lipped, try giving him a compliment.  If he is resting quietly, don’t say anything.  If he starts talking, listen and give him your full attention.

One way to help him come out of his shell is to ask him to do something for you and then let him know you appreciate it. For example, you could ask him for a neck massage or a hug and tell him how good it makes you feel.

One woman said her situation turned around when she went to her husband with tear-filled eyes and said “It feels like you hate me and I don’t like feeling this way.”

Every situation is unique. You may be tempted to retaliate and give him a taste of his own medicine but this will only make the problem worse. Instead, look to God to show you how to best help your husband reconnect with you.

How To Confront Him Without Creating A Barrier

Maybe he’s upset because he got into an argument with his boss, or perhaps he did not get the raise or the contract he was expecting. What should your response be at this point? You could follow him and keep asking him what’s wrong until he tells you (or leaves the room in exasperation). How about telling him how awful your day was (maybe he’ll think his wasn’t so bad) or maybe being overly cheerful in his presence in hopes that your exuberant mood will rub off on him?

The best thing you can do is to give him space and time to be by himself and let him know you don’t mind. He may want to watch TV, or simply sit quietly by himself or head out to the golf course.

Men and women cope with problems differently. Women generally feel better when they talk about their feelings to someone they trust. Men cope with issues by spending time alone.

When you understand these differences, it will be easier for you to give him space without feeling hurt or resentment.

If your husband is upset and not talking to you, don’t get perturbed. Give him space and do things to make yourself feel better and eventually he’ll be his sweet self again.