Have you ever made a suggestion to your spouse about how he should handle a specific problem only to have him accuse you of not trusting him or have you ever given him some unsolicited advice and had him say “Do you think you think I’m stupid or something?”

Ouch! You were only trying to be helpful and somehow your words were misconstrued as being  malicious, leaving you feeling defensive, hurt and bewildered.

You may feel loved and cared for when someone offers you suggestions on how to solve a problem. Your husband however, will not care too much for uncalled-for advice.  He may feel like you are trying to control him or that you don’t trust him to take care of the issue.

Questioning him or advising him to get the help of an expert are other ways to express your mistrust in his ability to handle the situation. Not believing in your husband will only serve to turn him off and decrease his self-confidence.

Learn to communicate with him in a way that lets him know you trust him to do the right thing.   You may be having severe doubts but take it to your bedroom in prayer.  Meditate on Proverbs 3:5 (Lord, I trust You to help my husband make the right decision in this situation.)  Keep the peace in your marriage by saving your words of wisdom (unless he asks for them) and trusting God to help your man.