1. Your goals as a wife and how you plan to accomplish them. Set long-term and short term goals. Put down in detail how you will reach your goals.

2. The vision you have for your marriage. Where would you like to see your marriage in a year from now? How about in 5 years? Would you like to be able to go on a date every Friday night or take exotic vacations with your husband twice a year? How about new wardrobe so you’ll feel and look more attractive?

3. Your accomplishments and victories. What successes have you experienced in your marriage- have  you learned how to disagree with your husband without starting an argument or maybe you and your husband broke out of your usual lovemaking routine and successfully did something totally different.  Write about your experiences in your journal. This will encourage you to keep working on your yourself and your marriage.

4. Things you appreciate about your spouse- thoughtful things he does for you, or any masculine traits you especially enjoy.  Reading through this list will cultivate gratitude for your man and it’ll be easier for you to verbally express your appreciation.

5. Information you receive. As you read marriage books, attend relationship conferences or listen to CD’s you will learn things that can help you succeed in your role as a wife but the fact is that we only hold on to very little information the first time we hear it or read it. Writing it down and reading through it regularly will insure that you can retain and use this beneficial information.

6. Prayers that were answered concerning your marriage. Writing down the things that God has done for you will remind you of His faithfulness.

7. Your husband’s preferences. What gifts did he particularly seem to enjoy? What type of outfits does he like to see you wear? What makes him feel special?  What are his favorite foods? What types of movies does he prefer?  This information will be particularly helpful when you are trying to decide what he would enjoy for his birthday or what type of gift to get him for Valentine’s day or how to celebrate father’s day.

Use your journal to help you improve your marriage as you discover your weaknesses and strengths and develop into the woman God wants you to be.

In order for you to really benefit from your journal, you must able to write your private thoughts without worrying  about prying eyes. Consider using code talk when you’re writing about sensitive issues, just in case, your journal accidentally falls into the wrong hands (your children, the babysitter, a nosy relative etc.)

Buy a journal and get started today.

Here are 5 reasons you will want to keep a marriage journal:

1. It helps you clarify and solve problems. Let’s say for example, that some nights when your husband comes home from work, you feel irritable and almost always get into an argument with him. By journaling, you discover that when your house is messy, you feel unhappy and those are the times you argue. So you keep your house clean and organized and your marriage improves.

2. Journaling is a way to keep your ideas and thoughts alive until you can put them into action. Let’s say that as you are sitting on your couch drinking a cup of raspberry tea, you have a great idea on how to have a romantic mini vacation at home. Writing your idea in a journal ensures that you won‘t forget it and you’ll be able to work on the idea at a later time. Many wonderful ideas are lost because they were not written down.

3. It is a great way to help you set goals for your marriage. What desires do you have on the inside of you concerning your relationship with your husband? How can you be a better wife and help him be the man God created him to be? Write these things down and read through them regularly. You will begin to get wisdom about how to improve your marriage.

4. Journal writing helps you remember useful information. As you read marriage books or listen to CD’s or attend a marriage conference at your church, you will be exposed to things that can help you have a wonderful marriage. However, unless you read or hear the information multiple times, you will retain only a small amount of it. Writing it down and reading through it regularly will insure that you can hold on to and use this valuable information.

5. It helps you assemble your thoughts and communicate your feelings when an opportunity presents itself. If your husband does something that bothers you, you will be miles ahead if you first analyze why it bothers you and what you would like to see changed. If you can anticipate his response, you’ll be able to stay calm and let him know what it is that bothers you without starting an argument.

Journal writing is a great tool to help you improve your marriage. Be committed to keep learning new information. Write down what you learn and read through it regularly. Buy yourself a good journal or notebook and get started today.