Marriage Advice: How To Get What You Want From Your Husband
You can strengthen your marriage and intensify your husband’s love for you by helping him give you what you want. Frustration and anger may set in if it seems like your husband always puts other people’s needs ahead of yours. If your marriage does not have any serious underlying problems, a solution may be fairly simple. Let’s look at 2 reasons why your husband may not be giving you what you desire.
The first reason- he may not be motivated. He may feel like his efforts are not appreciated and that he is not important to you. Maybe he works hard every day with no acknowledgement from you or maybe he has bought gifts for you in the past and your response was less than favorable. If you are excited and pleased with something he does-he will want to do it again.
Your husband wants to be your hero. He gets pleasure from meeting your needs and desires and if he does not feel like he is successful, he will quit trying and may look for other people to satisfy this need. You may see him helping or buying extravagant gifts for other women in his life-his secretary, his co-worker, his sister- leaving you feeling angry, confused, neglected and unloved.
He may mow his mother’s lawn even though you’ve been asking him to mow yours for weeks. Why is this? Often times he is doing the things that help him feel the most appreciated and valued as a man.
The second reason-possibly he does not know what you want. Unless you tell him, do not assume he knows. Be tactful and let him know how you feel but do not demand a change. For example, you may want him to help you with the dishes after dinner. You can say “Why don’t you ever help me with the dishes?” or “Honey I know you worked hard today and you are probably tired but it would really make me feel good if you’d help me with the dishes.” If he chooses to help, be sure to give him a sincere thanks.
By helping your husband fulfill your desires, you will have a better marriage, you will be happier and feel loved and your husband’s need to make you happy will be at least partially satisfied.
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